When I am at home I use one fork for my salad and one for my entree. Many places I go do not provide a salad fork and a dinner fork. So they collect my salad bowl and ask me to keep my fork. I really don’t want to use that same fork, is it awful for me to ask for new silverware?
Can I come for dinner at your house sometime? I can go an entire few nights without using silverware at place—cold pizza for the win—so I am impressed by your mealtime sophistication. It’s like one step away from Downton.
To your question: Whether or not servers replace your flatware varies from restaurant to restaurant. I worked at an upscale French bistro where the chef/owner insisted on flatware changes, even if a guest clearly hadn’t touched his bread knife during the appetizer portion. It was just one of the moves to make every course feel very fresh. (We also used the near-forgotten crumb scraper in between courses, très chic.)
I get that some more casual places don’t swap out forks or knives in between courses, but I very much understand your desire not to mix your salad’s poppyseed dressing with your entrée’s tomato-vodka sauce. It’s not at all unreasonable to ask for another fork, provided you do it politely. It shouldn’t take too much time for your server to snag a clean version for you.
Asking politely is always preferable, I think, to “accidentally” knocking your fork to the floor.
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